-The Mood Hoovers-
If you are unfamiliar with the term ‘mood hoover’ here it is;
You would be so surprised how many people are mood hoovers when you mention any feelings towards pregnancy. I struggled with this quite a lot, any friends of mine that have fallen pregnant after me I have told every single one of them to let the negative comments go over their heads! I wish someone had said that to me when I heard “oh my god are you sure you’re not having twins?”, “Wow you’re huge Kelly”. I even showed one person my 12 week scan picture and I loved it because he was waving at us, which I explained to this person was why I loved the picture. This person took the photo off me and said “that’s not baby waving, that’s baby saying, I’m on my way to ruin your life”….. I had no words. Why do people say things like this to new mums? To any expecting mum? Why?
I suffered with insomnia throughout most of my pregnancy getting a maximum of 2 hours sleep. All I can say is having a full-time job and growing a person is hard. If I had the audacity to mention I was tired the mood hoover would not be far away to let me know that I’ll “never sleep again.”
“Sorry Karen? You’ve got a child yourself and you’ve never slept? Never? Shes 12 years old and you’re still running on not one ounce of sleep? Ok then”. – I can confirm this is NOT the case at all and you will in fact sleep again. In my case I got more sleep than I did when I was pregnant.
But I was new to this, I was new to everything to do with being a mum, I was a sponge for information, I didn’t let these comments go over my head, I let them fester and get me down. Am I huge? Will I be giving birth to a 14-pound baby that will ruin my life and wont let me sleep until they are 12? What if?
If you have found yourself being on the other end of these comments please don’t be like me. Do not let anyone ruin your experience or make you perceive it in anyway other than perfect. Because trust me, the first couple of months when baby finally arrives IT’S A LITTLE MIRACLE and you struggle through, but you make it, you look back and go I cant believe we did it!
If you’re a mum and find yourself wanting to hand over a negative comment to a new first-time mum or any expecting mum for that matter, please think before you speak. Its like my mum always says, - If you can’t say anything nice then don’t say anything at all -
Tell me a negative comment you heard during pregnancy or even shortly after becoming a new mum? Leave it below, then leave it behind...
Lots of love,
Kelly & George x