~ If you don't enjoy playing with your child, you're not alone ~
So today's blog is a little on the controversial side, I think this is a topic that is so so rarely spoken about. AND IT SHOULD BE!
As I sat and played 'kitchens' with my under 2-year-old for the 7567th time, it dawned on me.... I don’t LIKE doing this. I don’t enjoy it. I’m purely doing it because I feel like I have to. Watching him play on his own makes me feel mum guilt right down in the pit of my stomach.... so I force myself to get involved. But, why don’t I enjoy it? Is there something wrong with me? Do all mothers hand on heart enjoy doing this?
Being a 2-year-old the world is all about cause and effect. “If I throw this, how far will it go and how much noise will it make when it hits mummy across the ankle bone”. I came to the very real conclusion that, simply? I'm an adult. My brain has fully developed (sort of*) so enduring things that I know will happen and end in mess and evidentially lots of mess and tidying (on my part)... I just don’t enjoy it. It's kind of sad really that we don’t have the mindset of children....
Give me crafts and paints ANY DAY OF THE WEEK, give me educational toys that we can learn and play together YES! Take me to a soft play center with him I'll get so so involved...I'm here for all of it. Watching him learn and develop, THATS where my fun comes from. Not playing kitchens, bashing pans together and opening and closing every book just to make sure it still does that.
I read somewhere once that allowing your child to independently play is a good thing. You shouldn’t feel guilty for it. At the end of the day, your child's no1 job is play. That’s how they learn, that’s what excites them. So now, I’ve stopped. That’s right, I've stopped. Unless my presence is requested by my little bossy boots, I just let him play on his own.
What I'm trying to say is, don’t feel guilty that your child is playing HAPPILY alone. It’s a good thing!! (You can sing Hallelujah now if you like?)
If you FORCE yourself to play with them all the time and don’t actually enjoy the task at hand, you risk your child picking up on this.... and that’s not fun for anyone. I enjoy watching him play don’t get me wrong. I love watching how his little mind works but playing? NAHHHH Im ok thanks.
What's your thoughts on this I’d LOVE to know?
All Our Love Always,
Kelly & George x