THE RETURN TO WORK
Firstly, I wanted to apologise for my lack of blogging these past few weeks. As you may or may not of seen we were in the “incubation period” for two weeks. George couldn’t go to nursery and I didn’t have much time to sit in front of my laptop and give the blogs my full undivided attention.
But, don’t worry IM BACK and ready to spill all the tea. Grab a cuppa (or a glass of wine) and read my story about returning to work and why we chose the nursery we did for George.
When I left work I cried, I loved my job. I loved the people I worked with. Throughout my pregnancy I kept repeating to my colleagues “I’ll be back in 6 months. Keep my seat warm I won’t be long”. I never comprehended actually how much my mindset would change when George was here, how hard it would be to leave him… to return to work.
I still struggle, even now to leave him, even with family members.... I honestly think is hands down one of THE hardest things to go through when you become a first time mum. Your whole outlook on life shifts.
Now, granted there are mums out there that cant wait to go back to work, the sooner the better…. I was NOT one of these mums. Six months was WAAAAY too soon. To me, I’d only just got to grips with motherhood, I had a routine down and was starting to feel like the new mum confusion-mist was only just clearing.
I ended up having a meeting and discussed elongating my maternity to a full year. WOW, that was a weight off my shoulders…. I had another 6 months to enjoy it, to soak it up. We are so lucky that we had the financial capability to do it. I kept saying to myself “ill never get to do this again, I’ll never get this time back. If we can, why not make the most of it?” The only problem? The additional 6 months FLEW by…. My brain was just all baby. It was just routines, nappies, feeding, playing, cuddles, lockdown and me and George.
But, whether I liked it or not, August was creeping up on me and I had to start to process my return to work. Now, by this point Coronavirus was in full swing, all the people at my work were working from home and to me, that seemed like a perfect fit.
My employers wouldn’t allow me to work part time AT ALL. Not even full time but, part in the office, part remote. Not reduced hours, nothing. I had a meeting about two months prior to returning to work and I got a “vibe,” a vibe that I was no longer welcome. Everything I suggested to make it a smoother process for me to return to work was laughed at (literally). It became very uncomfortable, very quickly and suddenly my place of work that I knew and loved became somewhere I resented.
I was checked up on…. my work actually rung Georges nursery to check if I was lying about him being enrolled and to see if I was serious about my return to work?!? This was the final straw for me. I would spend nights crying to my partner, I had a constant knot in my stomach about returning. I was told that even if we were in lockdown by the time I returned to work, that I (alone) would be expected to come into the office…. It was at that moment where myself and my partner sat down, worked out our finances and made the decision to not return to work. A weight was lifted off my shoulders! I immediately felt relieved and all the stress just evaporated.
If you are worried about going back to work after maternity leave know that there is a lot of support online and always keep in contact with your employer about your feelings and concerns about coming back to work. They will do all they can to ensure that you have a nice transition between maternity and either part-time or full-time work.
I had but this point started on Byron & Medina and began to create my vision and dream….It has been something I've wanted to do for a very long time. I always dreamed about having my own little shop of goodies. When George was born it became very clear that all things baby were items I wanted to sell. It was a long process and ive learnt so so much along the way and I am learning more everyday. Now, three months since launching and WOW! We have almost 300 subscribers! Over 1k followers and some INCREDIBLE feedback and an amazing mama community. We are continuing to grow and we LOVE IT! That’s all down to you. THANK YOU!! You keep our dream going and your support alone helps us get to where we are going!
In the next blog we will be discussing Nursery choices. How to enrol, how to chose the right nursery for you and your little. And getting them and you prepared for their first day…..
How did you find the return to work? I’m curious if other women found it easy to transition back or struggled like me? Any tips for coming off maternity?
With Love Always,
Kelly & George x